Lets Talk About Stress


We all have it, in one form or another.

It’s the irregular heartbeat.

It’s the palm sweating, head pounding, vision blurring out of control feeling.

It’s the difference between fight or flight.

It’s the voice we hear late at night reminding us of all the things we forgot to worry about earlier in the day.

It’s the start of anxiety.

It goes hand in hand with anxiety, in fact you can’t have one without the other – a little like love and marriage.

It is a silent killer.

It is the extra bags under the eyes.

It is the extra lines carved deep into your forehead.

It’s sneaky.

It’s powerful.

It pushes into your mind forcing you to spend time thinking, worrying, over analyzing the things you cannot change or worse, creating problems which may never arise.

There’s so many different levels of it; that no two peoples tipping point are the same.

It can make your stomach so tight that you can overeat or forget to eat.

It makes adrenaline pump through your veins for no reason other than panic.

It breeds panic.

It breeds panic in situations or places where there is no reason to be panicked.

It is exhausting.

It’s a mood changer, game changer and life changer.

It stops you.

It stalls you.

It hurts you; physically and mentally.

Yes, it is indeed something everyone knows a little about.

I know stress.

We have a relationship which is ever changing.

Stress brought anxiety, fear and of course good old panic into my life.

Stress never arrives alone. Stress dabbles in depression too for she is a merciless piece of work.

Stress has for a long time now, been taking over my everyday thoughts, actions and reactions.

Recently, however, I was given an opportunity to meet my stress and her friends face to face.

I have been meeting with stress, anxiety and panic regularly; this time when I summon them.

I’m getting to know what they want, how they work and how I can work with them.

There is no way to get rid of stress and her mates but there are a number of ways to manage them.

I started a mindfulness course.

I am really enjoying it and finding that if I understand my own personal triggers, I can talk myself down before stress brings her mate anxiety to the party.

I meditate daily.

I take time to just breathe.

I am beginning to see the trees without the fog.

Stress and I are indeed forever intertwined ; but it is only now that I understand why she is here with me.

Stress is something which can take over your life ; I believe the key is not to ignore her but to accept her and take time to be in the now with her. She tends to quieten down when I take the time to reason with her.

Stress doesn’t really like the ‘now’ ; well, my stress doesn’t. She would much rather I panic over something that may or may not happen in a few months or even years time.

Anxiety and panic attacks are also very much in my life thanks to Ms Stress ; but they too quieten down when faced with a calm mind and some deep breathing.

For anyone experiencing heavy amounts of stress , I would recommend to look up some mindfulness courses in your area or online.

There’s no shame in needing medication to help balance yourself too ; I have written before about having to take anxiety meds which have also helped me hugely along with mindfulness

This month is Stress Awareness month ; let’s hear it for all of us battling it daily .

This was originally published on Firefly




April 15, 2018 at 7:43 am

For me it is definitely sweating and the irregular heartbeat or not sleeping at night.
So well written as always! and good to raise Stress Awareness month. I did not know about it

    May 18, 2018 at 8:40 pm

    I think we all have it, don’t we ? I think it’s so important that we deal with it and not avoid learning ways to do just that !x

April 15, 2018 at 12:47 pm

Oooh, stress. I hate stress… she is a common visitor for me. She also doesn’t like the here and now.

Amazing post, I read it with nods of my head.

April 16, 2018 at 8:53 pm

I hate stress, it really does make people suffer so much. When I get stressed I flight and panic! I think I might look into meditation and see if it helps

April 16, 2018 at 8:57 pm

I have suffered with awful anxiety and my doctor has recommended that I look into mindfulness. Your words here are so true, being stressed can cause so many other problems, I’m glad you are finding ways to manage it all xx

April 16, 2018 at 8:58 pm

Stress is so hard on the body isn’t it?! No wonder stress is a killer! I’m trying harder lately to stress less!

    May 18, 2018 at 8:43 pm

    Yes Katy and I don’t think we talk about it enough . We all have it in one form or another you know ! It’s time we deal with it as best we can using the different tools available to us x

April 16, 2018 at 11:04 pm

OH yeah.. STRESS. That five letter word my wife hates and although, I admit that some kinds of stress are good. A lot of isn’t so good for you. I am going to try and guide my wife towards this post, so she can take some hints on a Less stressful life. I do have a loving nickname for my wife, ‘my little Stress head’. It may not sound nice but she knows I don’t mean anything by it. Just take some deep breaths and take a break, then she usually does.

Great post.

John M

    May 18, 2018 at 8:39 pm

    Yep I am what you’d call a stress head too but I’ve learned recently that I can control that . I hope your wife does read this and looks into mindfulness. And yep not all stress is bad , some is great especially if there’s a looming deadline !

April 17, 2018 at 5:32 am

Ah yes stress and I spend a lot of time together! Glad to hear you are benefiting from your mindfulness course. I keep hearing about them! x

April 17, 2018 at 6:49 am

This post resonates with me greatly. I need to learn to be more mindful and live in the present so I don’t get overwhelmed, anxious and stressed. April is also head & neck cancer awareness month, did you know?

    May 18, 2018 at 8:36 pm

    No I didn’t know that at all. It’s amazing the awareness days or months we don’t know about. Thank you for telling me . X

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